Too much of a good thing


E-motions are energy in motion. If they are not expressed, the energy is repressed. As energy it has to go somewhere. Emotional energy moves us, as does all energy. John Bradshaw

Yeah well, MY emotions are certainly energetic this week. I should have known, that on the week of focusing on the sacral chakra, I’d be hormonal and emotional.

I was emotional even driving to work this morning. The dog threw up on the carpet right before I had to leave home, I forgot to (a) brush my hair (b) bring a hairbrush. I limped into 7-Eleven (my foot is hurting again), after dropping my beautiful new fluorite crystal on the road when I got out of the car – it smashed to smithereens.

Let me embrace thee, sour adversity, for wise men say it is the wisest course. William Shakespeare

7-Eleven was out of hairbrushes. The girl just stood there looking vacantly at the empty drawer saying “they’re usually here.”

By this stage my emotions had reached boiling point. I limped back to the car and drove in tears, raging against all the deities I’d ever prayed to, that they were no friggin help at all. And despite realising that on the scale of world issues my hormonal morning probably rated pretty low, I was not happy with the level of service I was receiving.

Tears are a river that takes you somewhere… Tears lift your boat off the rocks, off dry ground, carrying it downriver to someplace better. Clarissa Pinkola Estés


I stopped ranting and crying when I realised the cars around me were giving me a wide berth, “stay away from the crazy/road-rage lady.”

Now let me say, there was more behind my emotionality than I have mentioned here. I am still very affected by seeing my dad so unwell lately and my relationship is… I don’t even know what it is. We are either having a break up or a break through – I’ll keep you posted as news comes to hand.

The sacral chakra is all about feelings, emotions, inhibitions, connectness with others, sexuality, sensuality, femininity – all the warm, soft and gooey stuff of life.

Our task must be to free ourselves… by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and it’s beauty. Albert Einstein

The main function of this chakra is emotional flow. The sacral chakra is located at the lower belly. Its Sanskrit name is svadhisthana, meaning sweetness. It is associated with our connection to other people, creativity, energy, confidence, and sexual health.

A person may be disconnected and cold towards others if this chakra is under-active. Or if its overactive, they may seem needy, overly emotional, and co-dependent. Yes! I realise I have an overactive sacral, I see that too, thanks for pointing it out through.

I had thought that over-active chakras were a good thing, I mean you can’t have too much of a good thing, right?

We all begin the process before we are ready, before we are strong enough, before we know enough; we begin a dialogue with thoughts and feelings that both tickle and thunder within us. Clarissa Pinkola Estés


Mostly I try to keep my emotions under wraps. It’s better that way, they scare people. After years of learning to ‘act better than I feel’ and ‘fake it til I make it’ and other such stoic affirmations, I now – mostly – project the demeanour of a very calm, together person. People say it to me all the time “you’re so calm.” Yeah. Except when you are behind me in traffic on a bad hormone day.

Physically, the sacral chakra governs our sexual development, our reproductive and urinary systems, including the kidneys and bladder. The sacral chakra corresponds to the ovaries and testes, the endocrine glands which regulate sexual development, reproduction, and the hormones oestrogen and progesterone.

The sacral chakra is about feeling and sexuality. When the sacral chakra is open, your feelings flow freely, you can experience intimacy with others, your creativity flows, and you can express yourself without being over-emotional.

The gesture of the amorous embrace seems to fulfill, for a time, the subject’s dream of total union with the loved being… A moment of affirmation; for a certain time, though a finite one, a deranged interval, something has been successful: I have been fulfilled. Roland Barthes

According the Curative Soul common psychological symptoms of an unbalanced sacral chakra are: eating disorders, addictions, low self-confidence, dependency issues, low libido, and unbalanced emotions.

Common physical symptoms of an unbalanced sacral chakra are: kidney problems and urinary tract infections, chronic lower back pain, sexual disorders, infertility, gynecological problems, dysfunctional menstrual cycles, and problems with the intestines, spleen, and gallbladder.

A healthy woman is much like a wolf: robust, chock-full, strong life force, life-giving, territorially aware, inventive, loyal, roving. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

According to Caroline Myss, “The challenge of the second chakra is to learn what motivates us to make the choices we do.” This centre governs our need to control other people. We are connected via our sacral energy to everyone and everything we want to control. In this way we both ‘invest’ our energy in the need to control others, and are affected by others who desire to control us.


All our sexual desires, memories, competition, shame, and envy are recorded in this chakra. Sexuality, power, money and creativity meld together in a melting pot of desires in this centre.

The sacral chakra energy holds the power of choice to create your own reality. The creative potentiality of the sacral chakra can be moved by trust and love or by fear and negativity. Our emotions can impact the choices we make and thus the consequences we have to deal with. Feelings of blame, shame, guilt, unattractiveness, insecurity, neediness, dependency sap our energy through this chakra.

Sacral chakra is where ideas come to be born, if our creativity is aborted the scars are recorded in this energy centre. Health issues of the reproductive organs can be as much linked to stifled creativity as to sexual memory.

Wherever thought goes, energy and life force follow. Caroline Myss writes that the second chakra gets unbalanced by stifled creative energy, money and sexual conflicts, power struggles, life energy directed into dead-end relationships or jobs, and control tactics that do not follow the spiritual rule to “Honour One Another.”

How do we disconnect our energy circuits from people or objects that sap energy? The first step is awareness. Check in often and notice where your thoughts are. Are they with you in the present, or have they drifted off to the past, the future, or with some person or object? Next, mentally cut the connection and literally call your spirit back. Calling one’s spirit back is not a one-time event; it’s a practice. Jule Klotter


The term ’empath’ seems to be a new age buzzword of the moment. It basically describes a state were folks, like me, are strongly affected by their own and other people’s emotional energy. Clarissa Pinkola Estes talks about this as a need to grow a thicker skin. Instead of walking around with our nerves jangling in the breeze, it’s important to be able to feel an appropriate and manageable level of emotions.

Caroline Myss explains that this chakra yearns for a connection with the sacred. It is a fundamental need of this chakra to have a daily nurturing rapport with the sacred.

Try this morning meditation by Caroline Myss to balance the sacral chakra.

Allow the truth ‘Honor One Another’ to penetrate your body.
Move your attention gradually up your spine to your lower back, hips and genital area.
Feel the fire and vibrant energy of this area.
Focus that energy toward the key areas of this chakra:
Relationships: Who am I going to be with today?
Work: What am I going to do today?
Money: How do I feel about it today?
Creativity: What am I going to create today?


Manifest plainness, embrace simplicity, reduce selfishness, have few desires. Lao Tzu

Deedre Diemer, in her book, The ABC of Chakra Therapy, writes that when are chakras are open and balanced, it means we have the ability to be more or less open as the situation warrants. In a room alone with our lover we may choose to be very open, not so much at work.

The chakradance of the sacral chakra is my favourite. Dancing with my hips and belly to middle-Eastern influences music, I feel this chakra flow. Using the imagery of a stream flowing through me, I can finally let go of the build up of emotion and be cleansed. I connect my the divine feminine. I become divine and glow with my sensual nature. I feel my creativity flow.

Last night I ran a bath. The sacral chakra resonates to the element of water, to the flow of water. I poured wild orange and geranium oil in, added some sea salt and let the emotional storm melt away. I asked that this excess energy flow down the drain with the water. Then I slept.

It seems to me, the name of this chakra ‘sweetness’ alludes to its proper balance. When we are sane and calm, when our emotions flow gently and appropriately, when we are neither bitter nor naive. When our desire for love and creative thirst is sensual and pleasurable, but not grasping and needy.

There is a time in our lives, usually in mid-life, when a woman has to make a decision – possibly the most important psychic decision of her future life – and that is, whether to be bitter or not. Women often come to this in their late thirties or early forties. They are at the point where they are full up to their ears with everything and they’ve “had it” and “the last straw has broken the camel’s back” and they’re “pissed off and pooped out.” Their dreams of their twenties may be lying in a crumple. There may be broken hearts, broken marriages, broken promises. Clarissa Pinkola Estés


Affirmations by Natalie Southgate:

I relish the sweet exchange of intimacy and connectedness.

Pleasure is a good and valuable part of my life.

I give myself permission to fully enjoy my sexuality.

I allow abundance and prosperity into my life.

I allow my emotions to flow through me in a healthy way.

I am open to experiencing the present moment through my senses.

The universe is full of sweetness and beauty.





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Taking it out into the world


All that is gold does not glitter. Not all those who wander are lost. J.R.R. Tolkien

There’s been a lot on inner work going on for me lately: chakra healing, shamanic soul retrieval, and of course, chakradancing. Now it seems it’s time to take this inner journey out to the world, to share this gift with others. And I have to say, I am feeling a little scared. It’s all very well to dance around my loungeroom, but now I’m going to put myself out there and guide others through the journey of Chakradance. Am I up for this? Am I ready? Will I do it ‘right’?

Better to illuminate than merely to shine, to deliver to others contemplated truths than merely to contemplate. Thomas Aquinas

Last week I went and danced with a dear friend. She’s been having some health problems and so we focused on the solar plexus chakra: the seat of personal power. I know that sounds a little Tony Robbins, but the power here is akin to the flow of electricity. If our solar plexus is compromised, for example, by us giving away our power through dynamics of low self-esteem and approval seeking, we can become very depleted in this area. As a result our whole system suffers as this inner ‘fire’ of digestion, metabolism and empowerment dwindles.


One of the greatest losses of energy in this chakra comes from ignoring our intuition. We all have intuition, it is an innate gift, the issue is when we don’t listen to it. We suppress it, deny it, argue with it, throw fearful thoughts at it, and this all takes a lot of energy.

Your soul knows the geography of your destiny. Your soul alone has the map of your future, therefore you can trust this indirect, oblique side of yourself. If you do, it will take you where you need to go, but more important it will teach you a kindness of rhythm in your journey. John O’Donohue

Caroline Myss talks about how we have misunderstood and mis-used the notion of creating our own reality, applying this force at the level of the material and the personality (romance, power, prestige) but that is not really the truth. The reality we create is at an energetic level, in our thoughts, and where we, consciously or unconsciously, direct our energy. This concept needs to be applied it to the management of our spiritual energy, and of our energy output.

Where does your energy go? Have you ever considered this? Not just physically but emotionally, via your thoughts. Do you harbour resentments, fears, old hurts? This is the great responsibility of the human life – conscious management of our power. The chakra system is a blueprint of the management of our spiritual energy, according to Myss.

Last week my lover gave me a rune reading. It was a beautiful process, and as with tarot, can be used as a form of divination alongside therapeutic counselling, to uncover blocks and issues in the querent’s life.

The runes are the traditional writing, magical and divination symbols of the ancient Germanic peoples, which effectively covers most of Northern Europe. Specific symbols carved in wood, or representations of these symbols on cards similar to tarot, are used in a traditional formation representing the realms in Norse mythology. There is an apparent correlation between these realms and the essence of the seven chakras as explored in this article by Magin Rose.wood-runes2

The reading was in response to a query I had about Chakradance. I had felt that just as I was beginning to bring my business into the ‘real’ material world of people, there was a major block occurring. People get very excited by ideas, but when it comes down to actually committing to a physical place and time, would they do it? Would anyone actually come to my classes?

The runes selected were highly favourable, suggesting I have the favour of the gods as what I am offering is of value, and with a recurring theme of sea-faring. I saw the analogy that my business, my chakradance craft, is like a boat, a beautiful boat, but one that has never been on the sea, is it actually sea worthy?

The only solution was some good old-fashioned business planning. Planning is something I often see as boring and restrictive, yet seeing the creativity as I write my business plan, the ideas flowing of how to launch my business, how I want my space to look, are actually really exciting. And it’s real.

We all begin the process before we are ready, before we are strong enough, before we know enough; we begin a dialogue with thoughts and feelings that both tickle and thunder within us. We respond before we know how to speak the language, before we know all the answers, and before we know exactly to whom we are speaking. Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Come to think of it, it’s not that planning is boring, it’s actually scary. My usual modus operandi is ‘fly by the seat of my pants’.

Yes, that is a kind of intuitive living, but I think you can be intuitive and conscious of your decision-making and the direction it’s taking you. I traditionally make what seems like a great decision at the time, with no real thought as to how to measure if it actually is a good decision, and if so, how I will know that going forward. And when fear and doubt creep in, as they always do, I’m lost at sea with no compass, asking myself plaintively, ‘are you sure this is what you want?”

I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavour. Henry David Thoreau

This week several synchronous articles have crossed my path, as I started to realise I needed more of a plan around my business, a friend’s new business was launched, with this wonderful article on why planning really helps calm the anxiety of launching a business – read it here at Confetti Design, and I received an email from Doreen Virtue about planning a spiritual business.

Johannah Chilcott, from Confetti Design, writes that there are three steps to keeping your head when starting a new business: building a solid foundation through research and planning, reducing objectives into micro-tasks to get things done without stress, and creating strategies for support, mentorship, and stress management techniques. It’s a very sensible approach, far less angst-ridden than my ‘fly by the seat of my pants’ no-planning-plan.

After the rune reading, and these gems of wisdom that have arrived in my inbox this week, the recurring message is that I need to plan, not because anything will necessarily go wrong, but because I will go into self-doubt, and a solid plan will remind me that I have prepared my boat for the ocean, I am sea-worthy. It will remind me of the reasons I embarked on this journey, and the solid ground behind and in front of me.2-seaworthy-jc-findley

Probably the most important part of manifesting my intentions is right here, this giving birth to them in the physical world, not shying away from physical limitations and obstacles, seeing this as part of the richness of what I am doing, breaking through old barriers of self-doubt and self-sabotage.

Success in any endeavour depends on the degree to which it is an expression of your true self. Ralph Marsten

I previously wrote about the book Creating on Purpose: The Spiritual Technology of Manifesting Through the Chakras by Lion Goodman and Anodea Judith in an old post here.

The jist of Creating on Purpose is that all creation is co-creation between energy forces which are always at work, and through awareness and energetic healing we can become a clear ‘bridge’ for these forces to flow through, and we can quite literally use our consciousness to change the world.

 You have the ability to draw down your own vision of what you want to create in your life and to manifest it here in the physical world. Your soul has a purpose for being here. Lion Goodman and Anodea Judith

The ancient vedic texts called the upward journey of energy throughout the chakras mukti, or freedom; Anodea calls it the ‘current of liberation’. This current enables you to liberate yourself from limitations and attachments. It is the commonly conceptualised path of enlightenment by ascending from the lower chakras through to the crown chakra.

Less understood is the downward path, which the ancient masters called bhukti meaning “enjoyment”. The descending current of bhukti is the process by which consciousness densifies into physical form. In its simplest form this can be thought of as the process used in any body movement. When you walk your consciousness tells your brain to instruct your body to walk, this thought travels via energy signals to the nerves in your legs, where it manifests physically as you walking.

This downward path of energy through the chakras is the process of manifestation, where ideas and intentions catalyse and are transformed into physical reality. This process begins at the seventh chakra at the crown and moves down to the base or first chakra.

But he was able to understand one thing: making a decision was only the beginning of things. When someone makes a decision, he is really diving into a strong current that will carry him to places he had never dreamed of when he first made the decision. Paulo Coelho

In Creating on Purpose, Anodea and Lion outline seven manifestation principles, which describe how the seven chakras are involved in various stages of manifestation. Lion is very clear that this is not about sitting still and manifesting abundance, this is co-creation between our energetic and physical forms which requires action.

blog-post-9-1-original-lmFor an intention to manifest there has to be an idea in your consciousness (7th chakra) you visualise it, including looking at all kind of related things and letting your imagination play with the idea (6th chakra), you communicate with people who can be helpful and talk about it (5th chakra), you ensure right relationships around this intention (4th chakra), you create action plans (3rd chakra), you infuse your intention with passion (2nd chakra) and you actualise the intention in the physical world (1st chakra).

The other process is dealing with resistance. Like my aforementioned reaction to putting myself out there, it is natural to experience resistance to any new intention or action. You need to identify and remove these obstacles and unblock your chakras to allow the current to flow freely.

Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. Albert Einstein 

Creating and holding a vision for our endeavours does not mean being attached to perfect outcomes, more it is a compass to hold and refer to when the sun clouds over and the seas get rocky. It is a vision of the direction we saw from the high vantage point on the coast before we set sail, and once we found ourselves out at sea, we can refer to that vision for guidance, inspiration, direction and courage.

Affirmations for starting your own business by Che Garman:

What I offer through my company has tremendous value.

My work is a labour of love.

I effortlessly channel my energy into working on my business.

I easily get the funds I need to help grow my business.

I believe in myself and in my company.

I build my business with understanding and dedication.

I contribute to the lives of others through the services I provide.

People are extremely eager to engage my services.

My chosen lifework is fulfilling and lucrative.

My company makes a positive difference in the world.

My business instincts are well-tuned.

My business is constantly growing and prospering.

My business is flourishing!





The Lover, The Rebel, The Priestess, The Child, and The Mother – the wisdom in archetypes


I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy. Rabindranath Tagore

Joy. What’s not to love about it? Odes have been written to it. Perfumes, dishwashing liquids, and magazines named after it.

Joy is my sixth intention, and although one possibly should not play favourites with such things – it is mine.

With joy anything is possible. Being mildly broke seems bearable. The assault on the environment and human rights still irks me, but I feel less pessimistic and more hopeful of solutions when I come from a place of joy. Joy makes mundane tasks pleasurable, singing whilst doing the dishes, chatting with the other mums whilst watching three hours of cricket.

The way to maintain one’s connection to the wild is to ask yourself what it is that you want. This is the sorting of the seed from the dirt. One of the most important discriminations we can make in this matter is the difference between things that beckon to us and things that call from our souls. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Joie de vivre. Pure, unadulterated delight in just being. That’s what calls to me from my soul.

Yet somehow, along this wild and wacky journey called life, I have been shamed out of feeling joy. I have been labelled as lightweight and fluffy, overly naive and annoying optimistic. Shallow even. What’s all this about then? I think it has to do with the misconception that joy is childish, when in fact it is childlike. And as we all have an aspect of self that resonates to the child archetype, I think its people’s unhappy child that wants to take a swipe at my joyful one.

Journeying into the psyche through Chakradance has been enlightening in myriad ways, none more so than the exploration of archetypes.

Maidens who stay maidens turn into saints. Old women become sorceresses. Tough jobs, both of these. Tanith Lee

Now you may believe that you have little knowledge or archetypes or even less use for them. However, you may be surprised to realize that archetypes are being used all around you every day.

A classic example is advertising. Watch any ad for nappies or breakfast cereal and right there is a woman we all instantly recognise as a “mother”. Or the prosaic car ad, with a devastatingly sexy man or woman, “the lover”, and even a car so sleek it turns into an animal archetype of speed and grace such as a jaguar.

Even done a Myers Briggs personality test? Or one of those Facebook quizzes on which Game of Thrones character are you? Yep, all archetypes. In fact the art of storytelling is implicitly archetypal, based on the narrative path coined the Hero’s Journey, from Joseph Campbell’s seminal work on myth, The Hero with a Thousand Faces.archetype

Have you ever seen a Disney movie without a witch, warlock, magician or some variation of these?

The bad guy in all movies usually is involved in some kind of alchemy, whether dark magic, or production and sale of illicit substances. Magic traditionally gets a bad rap from the uber-conservative and religiously pious Hollywood.

If you have yet to be called an incorrigable, defiant woman,
don’t worry, there is still time. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

So these are tangible and obvious manifestations of archetypal representation, but what of the archetypes Jung wrote of, what exactly ARE they?

You are a slave of what you need in your soul. Carl Jung

Carl Jung suggested that every society ever created shared its knowledge through storytelling.

Originally all societies were oral and pictorial storytellers, then many moved to written, and now electronic technologies, to tell their stories. That Facebook update or SMS you just sent, is a story. In these stories are characters, and throughout all cultures, thought the details may be different, the essence of the characters in these stories are the same.

Whether it was a Hollywood movie or an indigenous tribe, the same characters show up. According to Jung, this is how our minds store information about the human psyche and its relationship to the world. These archetypes allow our mind to access and process emotions, people, relationships, and stories into personal meaning, guidance, and wisdom.

Let’s hear what the man himself had to say on the subject…


Jung used archetypes as a theory to describe the human psyche. These universal, mythic characters reside within the collective unconscious of all people, regardless of race, culture, creed. These archetypes provide a symbolic representation of the evolution of experience human experience, and are deeply held, operating unconsciously, and intricately entwined with our emotions.

Archetypes are, at the same time, both images and emotions. One can speak of an archetype only when these two aspects are simultaneous… By being charged with emotion, the image gains numinosity (or psychic energy); it becomes dynamic, and consequences of some kind must flow from it. Carl Jung

Jung described 12 major archetypes, but there are many more. Caroline Myss describes over 70 in her book Sacred Contracts, and says that new archetypes emerge when technological development causes new aspects of evolution in the human psyche, characters such as “the geek” and “the networker.” There are ever developing subtleties in the field of archetypes.

Each archetypes has a unique set of meanings, motivations and personality traits. Listen to the way you describe people over the next day or so, “Oh she’s a real go-getter, she’s a total drama queen, he’s a phony” – all archetypal.ITWOP

It is the function of consciousness… to translate into visible reality the world within us. Carl Jung

So why should you care about archetypes? Well, not only are advertisers using them to tap into your unconscious and create emotive reactions in you, learning about your dominant archetypes can be a profound insight into the way you operate in the world, your communication style, those areas where you get stuck, and an insight into your relationships with others. And well, it’s fun and absolutely fascinating to boot!

Archetypes are… that portion through which the psyche is attached to nature. Carl Jung

Archetypes can be very useful in examining our behavioral patterns. For example, I have always experienced fear and anxiety. This is based in my child archetype and a need for security and reassurance.

The fact is being an adult involves a degree of risk – along with responsibility comes decision-making, which invariably is a calculated risk based on what happens if I do, what happens if I don’t. The inability to make responsible decisions, or to blame others when things go wrong, is a manifestation of the child archetype.

Each archetype has a shadow and a functional side. So, to further elaborate on my example, I want to move from the silent, vulnerable aspect to the joyful, playful aspect of the child archetype. Yet, we must be careful not to fall into moral judgements of “good” and “bad” as ALL archetypes serve a valuable function, and perception of them is somewhat fluid and subjective.

Understanding as had the ancients that angels and demons were identical – interchangeable archetypes – all a matter of polarity: the guardian angel who conquered your enemy in battle was perceived by your enemy as a demon destroyer. Dan Brown

Caroline Myss writes that the apparently ‘negative’ or shadow archetype has power precisely because it remains in the dark; we tend to deny its presence in us because we consider it unacceptable. Only when we face and acknowledge the shadow’s presence can we neutralize its potential negative impact on us, and embrace its wisdom.

Archetypes are not passive entities floating around in the psyche like old family portraits hanging in a dusty corridor of your ancestral castle. They take an active role as guardians and inner allies, alerting you when you are in danger of falling into destructive or “shadow” behavior. The Saboteur, for instance, warns you when you are in a situation in which you tend to sabotage your own best interests. Once you learn to recognize such a pattern, instead of ignoring it or denying its presence, it becomes your friend and can help you avoid selling out. Caroline Myss


Take for example the characters in the Wizard of Oz, the whole journey to Oz resulted in the realisation that they had the powers (agency, heart, brains, and courage) they had sought, within them all along, only their shadow archetypes (The Child, The Prostitute, The Saboteur, The Victim) were dominating their persona.

Yet, it was these very shadow archetypes that propelled them to take the journey to see the great Oz in the first place.

So working with archetypal concepts can be a great way to work through psychological issues, and who doesn’t have some of those? Archetypes have a functional aspect and a shadow aspect. The shadow aspect may be operating in our lives but we are unaware of the dynamic. So to use the example of my child, for many years I was operating from a desire for childlike security and dependence without even knowing it, now I can resolve that by acknowledging the security and independence I provide for myself, and investigate more functional aspects of my child archetype, like play and wonder and JOY!

While archetypes may emanate through us for short periods of time, in what we call numinous experience, no woman can emanate an archetype continuously. Only the archetype itself can withstand such projections such as ever-able, all giving, eternally energetic. We may try to emulate these, but they are ideals, not achievable by humans, and not meant to be. Yet the trap requires that women exhaust themselves trying to achieve these unrealistic levels. To avoid the trap, one has to learn to say ‘Halt’ and ‘Stop the music,’ and of course mean it. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

absolute-sandman-20061013055215200As a side note, I realise I am rather crudely over-simplifying a highly sophisticated theory here, for my own need, as a novice in this field, and to not over-complicate the point for my readers. It does however feel akin to plodding through a Japanese pebble garden in combat boots, so my sincerest apologies to those with a deeper understanding of this theory than mine. And I do hope as my understanding deepens I can share this new awareness with y’all. Or please share yours with me.

Asking the proper question is the central action of transformation – in fairy tales, in analysis, and in individuation. The key question causes germination of consciousness. The properly shaped question always emanates from an essential curiosity about what stands behind. Questions are the keys that cause the secret doors of the psyche to swing open. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Chakradance uses Jungian archetypes as a way to explore each chakra.“The Intuitive” is the light archetype of the third eye chakra, or Ajna, and “The Over-Intellectual” is the shadow. Intuition versus intellectualization – I visualise this as ‘head up’ or ‘head down thinking.’ Head up, gazing at the wonders of the universe, head down in hands, thinking of the worries of the world.

Two men looked out from prison bars,
One saw the mud, the other saw stars. Dale Carnegie

Natalie Southgate from Chakradance writes that Ajna has a two-fold meaning when translated from Sanskrit – to perceive and to command.

The third eye chakra is said to be the centre of perception, that intuitive sixth sense of just knowing, without knowing how we know. It is also the centre of our dreams and memory recall, the chakra where we can tap into archetypal energies. Through active use of our imagination, we can gain command over our vision of the world.

Though her soul requires seeing, the culture around her requires sightlessness. Though her soul wishes to speak its truth, she is pressured to be silent. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

It is in Ajna that we tap into the ‘collective unconscious’ and the world of archetypes. During the Chakradance we work with an archetypal energy in order to allow that energy to enter the physical body and move through it. By embodying archetypal energies in the meditative dance space, we can gain insight into how these energies are manifesting in our lives.

milina.luisvilalon1-300x199So thin a veil divides
Us from such joy, past words,
Walking in daily life–the business of the hour, each detail seen to;
Yet carried, rapt away, on what sweet floods of other Being:
Swift streams of music flowing, light far back through all Creation shining,
Loved faces looking–
Ah! from the true, the mortal self
So thin a veil divides!

Edward Carpenter

Accessing the full power of the imagination is a gift inherent in all of us. The ‘command’ function of Ajna relates to the powers of visual imagination. This allows us to shift from left-brain rational cognition to right-brain creative thinking. This is the shift into our inner visionary. Yes, you DO have one!

The Ajna Chakradance, under the full moon by the sea, was euphoria, bliss, joy, energy, insight, connection. The place and surrounds were deserted. It was just me on the damp grass under the trees and the stars, with the sounds of the ocean crashing in the background.

At first I found being outside distracting, I was over-thinking it, trying to force a vision, also a little nervous about being so alone and isolated. Focusing on the music and movement, I tried to keep my eyes closed, but they kept getting drawn open to the natural beauty that surrounded me.

After a time, I felt an energy shift, the light became more intense as my dancing slowed, I intuitively reached my arms to the moon, I felt she was calling me. At that moment a tunnel of white light came directly from the moon into me, with the most vibrant and loving sensation, I felt completely safe and perfect. An intuitive voice came within the light saying “You are beautiful. You are now a Moon Goddess”ser_espiritual

After that my energy levels spiked and I was dancing like a whirling dervish, I felt I was a faery with wings dancing and leaping around the garden. At one stage my ring flew off my finger and landed near a wand-shaped stick. I decided this was meant to be my wand and I used it to ceremonially cut cords with any negativity.

The lesson of this dance was in reacquainting me with my divinity. When I am over-reliant on my rational mind, I can become quite disheartened about life, this connection with the universal energies of the moon and stars reminds me I am connected to all that is, there is no need to worry, the universe is unfolding, and I am part of its divinity.

Tapping into the archetypal world of the collective unconscious, allows synchronicity to flow in my life. Synchronicity is often discounted as coincidence, and it is acausal in the same way, but it is meaningful. For example, I was sitting at a park bench on my lunch break last week, re-reading my last blog post and thinking about the post I wrote for my friend who died, called “For You, Blue” after a somewhat obscure Beatles song, and at that moment, a man walks past singing that song. Now there is no connection between me and this man, yet at that moment, we were physically co-present, and our conscious minds were simultaneously focused on a Beatles song called “For You, Blue.” That is synchronicity.

To put it bluntly, and I think the process is far more subtle and nuanced than this conveys, events of synchronicity are the collective unconscious’ way of communicating with us that this connection exists. Why? I don’t know. It feels, to me, like sensing a ripple in the sea of the collective unconscious. You know, like in Star Wars “I feel a disturbance in the force”. Or an exclamation mark, “Yes! You are having a meaningful moment in the collective unconscious” – gold star. Okay, I really don’t know…

Like the characters from the Wizard of Oz, our power is always within us. We may search in external powers, like the Great Wizard, only to find he is just a man. Yet he is wise enough to know we have been acting from our power unconsciously all along. Like Dorothy, all we need to do is set the intention and we can go home at any time, the shoes, the incantation are just the point of focus, they bring our truth to our conscious mind, the power is within.

I hope you will go out and let stories, that is life, happen to you, and that you will work with these stories… water them with your blood and tears and your laughter till they bloom, till you yourself burst into bloom. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Affirmations for third eye chakra from Purely Om:

I open myself to know my inner guidance and deepest wisdom.

I align my consciousness with the source of all life.

I believe I am unlimited in my capacity for joy, healing and happiness.

I open myself to new energy, new people, places and experiences.

I live in the light of my truth and I accept what I know.

I create clarity of mind and unlimited vision for myself.

I am wise, intuitive, and aligned with my highest good.

I open my imagination to see the best in people and things, and to see the best in myself.

I am the source of truth and love in my life.

As I tap into my inner wisdom, I know that all is well in my world.




Women who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype Clarissa Pinkola Estés



Title: Edward Burne-Jones The Mirror of Venus 

Card playing archetypes

Archetypal faces

Wizard of OZ

Archetypal mask

Ajna woman

Moon Goddess

Constant craving


Life itself is the proper binge. Julia Child

It has dawned on me that this little ‘experiment’ of mine, this wide-eyed and unsuspecting foray into “I wonder what would happen if I just put my seven intentions out there?” has begun to take on proportions akin to opening Pandora’s Box.

Think of young Charlie entering the Chocolate Factory, senses enlivened, beliefs challenged, reality turned on its head. Nothing is impossible: there’s Oompa-loompas, you can fly, or be transformed into pure energy and beamed across a room, or launch through the roof in a great glass elevator with dreams of unlimited abundance.

Now that I come to think of it, that’s pretty much exactly like the metaphysical journey I have embarked upon.

Intuition is our primal sense. Long before we are introduced to rational thinking, we sense life. Caroline Myss

As part of the facilitator training course I am undertaking, each week I connect by phone with my Chakradance mentor. When I spoke to her last week, after my rather intense third chakra experience (see here), and discussed moving on to the heart chakra, she said, rather optimistically, “this should be a lovely, restful place for you.”

Even as she said it, although I tentatively agreed, I knew I was not getting off that lightly. Right there I set my intention for the week. Because intentions do not have to be either conscious or positive, don’t you know.

And the heart, I mean really? Of all the energy centres, surely this is the clanger. (You can see how I set myself up here, mentally, right?)

Reflecting on the heartbreak in my life, much of it in my imagination, starting with reading ‘Great Expectations’ and ‘Wuthering Heights’ as a pre-teen, onto the stream of boys who didn’t even notice me (whom I never so much as looked at, never mind spoke to, so shy was I). I realise I have been in a near-constant state of unrequited love of one form or another my whole life.

People worry about kids playing with guns, and teenagers watching violent videos; we are scared that some sort of culture of violence will take them over. Nobody worries about kids listening to thousands – literally thousands – of songs about broken hearts and rejection and pain and misery and loss. Nick Hornby

Or reading books about broken hearts and rejection and pain and misery and loss…

My heart is always aching for something or someone. As K. D. so poignantly sang, “constant craving has always been…”

Even through the darkest phase, be it thick or thin, always someone marches brave, here beneath my skin. K. D. Lang

This craving has been in me forever. It pulsates from within, alternating waves of pleasure and pain, directing little electrical impulses out into the world to scan for the remedy. At various times in my life I have attempted to satiate this craving with a procession of people, tricks, treats, and such things. There are times when I still think a new house, job, lover, body, accolade, or just a massive block of chocolate will fulfil this craving. Alas, the world of the physical has failed to sate me – maybe the journey into the heart and soul will prove more effective.

The dance of Anahata – the heart chakra – is soft and gentle and loving. The guided imagery invites the energies of the earth mother to enter through the base chakra, and the sky father through the crown chakra, to meet and dance in the heart. I’m sure you can imagine how wonderfully divine this union feels.

The reason angels can fly is because they take themselves lightly. G.K. Chesterton

The heart chakra is energetically connected to our relationships with others. In the last couple of years, there has been a giant spotlight shining on this area of my life. It makes me very uncomfortable. (Ha! At best it makes me uncomfortable, when I’m not writhing in all-consuming pain, that is.) While I have some truly beautiful and loving relationships in my life, I also have some not so healthy ones.

The pattern that is emerging in this dynamic, the archetype if you will, is the matyr or victim. It is the aspect of me that doesn’t speak up, accepts substandard behaviour from others, justifies madly, but ultimately unsatisfactorily, why it’s okay for them to treat me like this, and then becomes drained, as all my energy races off to these unreciprocal connections.

If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative. Know when to close the account. Marc Chernoff.

Interestingly the archetype of the heart chakra is the lover, with its shadow, the pretender. Initially the pretender sounds like a ‘player’ in the worst, most deliberate sense of the word. A heart-breaker.

That’s not something many of us would want to acknowledge in ourselves. Yet, when I sat with this idea, and thought of it as the polarity to the lover, a different picture began to emerge. Who hasn’t pretended in relationships, from the “no, your bum doesn’t look big in that,” to the “I’m busy,” when actually I’m upset, to staying in a relationship past the point of knowing it is not serving the highest good of either person? Do I pretend things are okay when they are not? Hells, yeah.

If I got rid of my demons, I’d lose my angels. Tennessee Williams

Why do we do this? I say we, as I am sure I’m not alone here. For me, there are several key motivations: security, fear of change, fear of hurting someone, and fear of pain. I pretend in order to avoid these things, and yet experience has shown me that the pretender only hurts myself and others in the end, because she doesn’t trust in love and truth as the ultimate authorities. She tries to manipulate things to be secure and happy, she is truly a player of hearts, not a lover.

As such, I am home with a seized-up back. That’s what happens to me when the emotional release gets too intense, my mind takes over, my body packs it in, and all I can do is rest or walk very gingerly.

Having been here before, it doesn’t frighten as much as it used to, when I would entertain fears of never walking again, and even worse never dancing or being able to do yoga. Now I just get angry at myself for not being more spiritual, as if there was some magical way to bypass this experience.

There’s an old, well-worn energy of ‘I’ve wrecked everything, I never do anything right, now my life is ruined’. And yes, I know when I articulate it, that sounds like a teenage tantrum, but when I’m in it, it is totally real. Like, totally.

As a result of my unhealthy relationships with myself and others, and my lack of energy flow, I turn in on myself, and attack my own already depleted system. Since I’m talking archetypes, that’s classic victim right there.

The wound is the place where the Light enters you. Rumi

It is only really occurring to me now, the truly profound link between my fourth intention, vibrant health, and the fourth energy centre, the heart chakra. To be vibrant is to be in possession of all my energy, which suggests I am not leaking energy through unhealthy relationships and emotional attachments.

A vibrant person knows how to hold their energy: I respect myself, I have healthy boundaries, I expect and receive loving behaviours from others. I am passionate in all my endeavours. I am authentic and true to myself.

This is what the heart chakra teaches me. It teaches me the difference between force and power. The heart chakra is infinitely powerful, yet uses no force. Like a fire that radiates heat, without diminishing it’s flames, the heart radiates love effortlessly.

Power is in the now, force is trying to push the now into some future point in time and space. Force is trying to make something happen. Power just is. It is the natural state of the heart chakra. It is accessible only by allowing and trust.

The heart teaches me the greatest wisdom is to always ask “what would be loving to me right now?”

We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be. Jane Austen

The answer to that was allowing myself the most gentle, loving, powerful healing I could find. As soon as I set this intention, out of my wallet fell my friend’s Reiki business card. “Okay, angels,” I said – yep, I’m talking to angels now – that sounds fine.

The healing session was amazing, my friend told me that my energy flow up and down my chakras was gridlocked, like a manic street in India, where all the drivers had decided to go in different directions at the same time, it was stuck. She moved the energy and it was utter bliss. The mental fog cleared, the heightened emotional states dissipated. Ah!

When your energy vibrates at a frequency that is in direct alignment with what the universe has been attempting to deliver your entire life, you begin to live in the flow and true miracles start to happen. Panache Desai

Freed from the mental and emotional gridlock, I could finally experience the flow of my heart energy. (I previously wrote about the heart chakra here.)

The sankrit word for this chakra, Anahata means ‘unstruck.’ Meditating on this concept I intuit this as meaning the heart is ever pure, ever ‘unstruck’ by life’s hurts. The pain I feel at times in my heart is a mental construct I have not been able to let go of. But my heart energy is sound, intact. She sings her sweet song that I could hear, if only I clear away the debris.

Man is made or unmade by himself. In the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace. William James

What appears to be happening to me, as a result of my explorations into the world of intentions, is that I have discovered a world beyond the physical, a world of information and energy that operates invisibly, until your vibrational energy resonates highly enough to experience it.

Caron, the Reiki master I met this week, put it beautifully. The physical world is dense in energetic terms, so we can see and touch it. The emotional world has a higher vibration, but most of us can still sense it in others, even if we can’t measure it or see it, we know when we walk into a room and someone is quietly seething with rage. It’s like love, we can’t measure it, but we know how to feel it when it’s there.

A human being is part of a whole, called by us the ‘Universe,’ a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest – a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. Albert Einstein

When we become attuned to our chakras, we open ourselves to experiences beyond the physical; higher vibrational experiences. And because we cannot see them or measure them objectively, or even sometimes describe them adequately in words, there is a feeling that they are not real, that they are, at best, products of an over-active imagination, and at worst, symptoms of psychosis, or a ruse designed to falsely elevate the practitioner to a ‘visionary’ or ‘cha-ching guru’ status.

Now I am not going to pretend to be an expert on any of this. I feel like a little girl in the dark at a great museum, shining her weedy torch-light on amazing masterworks, but only seeing a fraction of what is there: the gold of Tutankhamen’s tomb, the hair of a Botticelli angel, mere glimpses of something that only hints at the majesty of the whole.

The struggle of the mind to keep itself free from every sort of bondage–to remain curious, open, unsatiated in all its relations with nature–is tenfold more difficult than the cultivation of a stable, satisfying point of view, but a thousandfold more precious. Gardner Murphy

The other day I had an hour to kill, so I headed to my favourite esoteric store to buy a book and (another) pack of oracle cards. On the drive over, the thought popped into my mind that I should see if my favourite tarot reader was available. If it was meant to be, she would be, if not, not, I thought.

As I entered the store there was a woman standing directly in front of me, with the loveliest, most welcoming face, she looked up at me and I spontaneously said ‘Hi’ like she was a long lost friend. I’d never seen her before in my life.KATHERINE-SKAGGS-1102.WHITE-BUFFALO-CALF

It turns out, she was the fill-in reader for the day, an amazing woman with 35 years experience, and yes, she was available at the time I was.

I had the oddest sensation of angels clapping their hands with glee at the two of us finding each other in such a serendipitous way.

She gave me an amazing reading, in no small part due to the energy she brings as a beautiful wise woman, an elder, she called herself. I felt like we were absolutely destined to meet, that she could be a wonderful mentor for me.

Katherine-Skaggs-1050.CROW-WOMANThe first card she saw, from the bottom of the pack was courage – from the French word ‘coeur’ meaning heart. “Your heart chakra is open and loving, I can see it clearly, your block is mental.”

What a relief. Mental? Is that all. No problemo! I mean seriously, after the pain of the week, both physically and emotionally, the news that my heart was fine and dandy was a HUGE relief.

The reading was beautiful, full of goddess images of meditation and women’s circles, of wisdom and knowing. The reading highlighted many of my intentions, and showed me how so many are manifesting.

The intentions of home, community, purpose, health, abundance, joy, and love are all manifesting in my life, as a direct result of the intentions I have made and nurtured in this blog.

“You bring the truth through your creativity” she says “you are a light bearer.”

At the end of the session, filled with energy and excitement, I was uncharacteristically forward, I asked her how I could see her again, she gave me her card, and I nearly fell off my chair. The image was almost identical to one I drew as a mandala after my heart chakradance. A heart with wings and flames.candy card drawing

I have never been entirely convinced – although ever hopeful – of the concepts of destiny and soul connections. I am now.

Apart from the beautiful and amazingly accurate reading, and the powerful sense of synchronicity, the great piece of wisdom she imparted was in response to a question I asked her.

As part of an astrological spread, where she laid out 12 cards for each of the astrological houses each of which correspond to an aspect of my life, in this case, home – she drew the beautiful ‘Patience’ card. As you can see it is a gorgeous image of a woman meditating with light and stars all around her head. And below is another Chakradance mandala drawing of mine. Oh now, this is just getting spooky!pleides card

Looking at this beautiful image reminded me of how I feel in meditation practice.

“That’s how I feel at home!” I cried.

“But why can’t I maintain that feeling out in the world, in my relationships, at work? Why do I get so drained by people?”

She replied that the key is loving ourselves. When we love ourselves, we don’t give ALL our energy away, we keep what we need. We take care of ourselves as well as others. She told me to repeat the mantra “I love myself”, before going into the world, before a tough meeting, a job interview, anything where I am engaging with others. She said when we are in fear we give away our energy, but when we love ourselves we maintain our energy.

And it’s not spooky at all. It is just rather confronting to the logical mind that a seemingly random thing like Tarot can delve so deeply into our psyche. But that’s a foray for another post!

chakradancemandala1She also emphasised a need for me to connect with a women’s circle, the desire for meaningful community. Fortuitously, I was off to the first session of a Reiki Chakra Meditation group that very night. I had signed up for this group, run by a lovely friend a few weeks ago. It was such a strong intuitive ‘ding’ that I should go, and I am so grateful. We laid out yoga mats and pillows and blankets and meditated and talked and laughed, it was like a spiritual slumber party.

The meditation was so beautiful, I was in a field full of yellow sunflowers, surrounded by woodlands, and then a deer doe came to me. The vision then shifted to a paddock at my aunty’s home, where my cousin was leading me by hand, through the long summer grass and dandelion flowers, towards the dam, one of my very favourite childhood places.

community cardAfter the meditation we all discussed our experiences and looked up the meaning of the various imagery we had encountered. The image of a deer represents a gentle safe place at a time we are feeling endangered or threatened – so perfect after the week I had. The yellow flowers represent my personal power, gentle, radiant, and still. The childhood memory was a place my inner child felt safe and happy.

I walked out with such a big smile on my face after a really challenging week.

Practice meditation. You’ll find that you are carrying within your heart a portable paradise. Paramahansa Yogananda

So this week has taught me to just go with it. Emotional up and downs, intuitive dings, synchronicity and spooky deja-vu, just going with the flow and letting myself be guided by my inner wisdom has been the most powerful and empowering experience for me.

The image of the turtle repeated in my card readings – the reminder to go slowly, to take refuge in my shell as needed. That love will unfurl in her own time.

Living from the heart. Releasing the need to remain tight and controlled. Letting the unfolding happen. True that.

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin

Affirmations for the heart chakra, as you say them, emphasise a different word each time and feel the difference (thanks to Candy Van Rood for this affirmation technique):

I love myself.

I LOVE myself


I am love

I AM love



I love

I love



If you would like to contact either of the amazing healers I mentioned in this post:

Reiki with Justine at Seven Points Healing

Astrology and tarot readings with Candy Van Rood


If you are interested in Chakradance

Or the chakras themselves


Find your archetype here:


Title image here

Card artwork by Candy Van Rood here

All other artwork from the Mythical Goddess Tarot Cards available here by Katherine Skaggs


Stuck in the middle with you

Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right, here I am stuck in the middle with you. Stealers Wheel

It may have appeared in my last post that I am a mirror-gazing, Louise Hay enthusiast. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Except it’s not really true. So I would like to clarify a few things. One, I don’t do affirmations into the mirror, it doesn’t work for me, so I don’t do it. Two, I admire Louise Hay immensely for her tireless healing work, and I use many of her affirmations, but mostly reading her book “Heal your Life” just propelled me off into my own self-discovery around being comfortable in my own skin. I don’t pretend to be a Louise Hay expert, so please don’t expect me to be one.

Life is short, break the rules. Forgive quickly, kiss slowly. Love truly. Laugh uncontrollably and never regret anything that makes you smile. Mark Twain

Many years ago a wise woman told me that in examining all of the many approaches to living life, I should take what I like and leave the rest. It’s another way of saying live and let live. It also encourages me to keep an open mind, try new things for myself and make my own decisions about what works for me – as I encourage you, dear reader, to do. Don’t take my word for it, find your own medicine.

Take wrong turns. Talk to strangers. Open unmarked doors. And if you see a group of people in a field, go find out what they are doing. Do things without always knowing how they’ll turn out. Randall Munroe

The first quote is from a song I used to listen to in my days of monopolising the jukebox at my local pub. I still love this song, with it’s classic ‘how did I get here?’ and ‘now what?’ sentiment. It also makes me think of my journey into self-acceptance. As I said it didn’t come from mirror gazing – although if yours does, bless you and no judgement here – mine was more from a rude awakening that “holy shit, I’m stuck here in the middle of this body for a whole lifetime, now what?”

Sometimes – actually most of the time – the human race just baffles me. I have to actively entice myself to engage with the world en masse, my personality and preference is to withdraw. Living in a cave sounds really appealing sometimes.

So then, the relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself. Alan Wilson Watts

Connecting with others is very much related to the second chakra, which is the chakra I am exploring in Chakradance this week. The second chakra governs our senses, our emotions, giving and receiving nurture, as well as our creativity, sexuality, and relationship to money.

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. African Proverb

My introspective personality tends to rumination. Introspection is helpful at times. I guess, for me, it comes down to thinking versus intuition – but how do you tell the difference? To me, intuition is never indecisive, it may be quiet, it may get drowned out by wordly clamours, or it may be the answer is ‘I don’t know yet’. In which case stillness is required, being, not more thinking. Intuition is an effortless decision-making process. Well, apart from the effort of letting go of my thinking, that is!

Know your awareness, by feeling your experience. Jeddah Mali

As I dance through the weeks of the Chakradance training, I feel as if I am revisiting my seven intentions and seven chakras. Last week was the base chakra and my intention of home. I did a massive spring clean of my home space, clearing out the old to make space in my life. Then I experienced a journey of self-love into my body, grounding through the root chakra, through visualisation and earthing practices.

Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable. M. Scott Peck

This week is the second chakra and my second intention, community. The dance of the second or sacral chakra, was just beautiful. The energy of the sacral chakra is very flowing, like water. The dance began with the hips – which I love, I have always been a hippy dancer, love to belly-dance. The visualisations were first of being in water, then of dancing under the full moon. I had a fabulous time, I was transported first to an underwater world, then to an Arabian desert under the full moon, where I belly-danced my heart out. Jung believed the second chakra was the gateway to the unconscious, a mysterious, watery netherworld of unlimited possibilities.

I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘if this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’ Kurt Vonnegut

Svadhisthana – the sanskrit name for the second chakra, meaning sweetness – is where self-discovery, or individuation, begins. Jung believed that the second chakra was the beginning of the symbolic journey into the unconscious, a journey manifested through the remaining chakras. Chakradance draws on Jungian archetypes, and his concept of the shadow. The term ‘shadow’ is not intended as dark or negative in meaning, but as in ‘invisible’, it is literally the parts of ourselves we deny or refuse to accept.

Mystery is at the heart of creativity. That, and surprise. Julie Cameron

The archetype associated with the sacral chakra is the Empress/Martyr. It is an archetype of feminine receptive power, the energy of water and the moon is strongly associated with this energy centre. The chakra resonates to the colour orange and is centred around the area of the reproductive organs. This chakra allows feelings to flow, encourages nurture, allows the setting of loving boundaries, creativity, and sensual expression.

Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kindergarten. Then when you hit puberty they take the crayons away and replace them with dry, uninspiring books on algebra, history, etc. Being suddenly hit years later with the ‘creative bug’ is just a wee voice telling you, ‘I’d like my crayons back, please.’ Hugh MacLeod

Christianne Northrup writes that the key to balancing the spiritual and emotional issues that can block energy in the second chakra is addressing your drives toward sex, money, and relationships; co-creating with others; defining boundaries; including when to be assertive and when to be passive.

To everything – turn, turn, turn
There is a season – turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven. The Byrds

Caroline Myss believes that while the base chakra is the tribal chakra, the sacral chakra is about how you relate one-to-one, it is your need to control other people, places and things. It is the place where you feel the heat of competition, the sting of jealousy, and the pang of measuring yourself against others. Wanting to control others, to feel needed, is the martyr shadow side of this chakra. When unconsciously seeking to be needed, it costs you energy, transmitting a part of your spirit to infiltrate that other person’s energy, plus you are also the recipient of other people doing this to you.

The second chakra connects you to everyone and everything you have ever wanted to control. Caroline Myss

According to Caroline Myss, trauma comes from investing your energy into perceptions you know are not true. Competition, vengeance, unforgiveness. These are tribal beliefs about justice. The second chakra requires that you shift to divine justice, trust in the divine karmic accounting system. This includes your beliefs about money. And your occupation, in the sense that what you do with your time can either be expressing your creative flow or stifling your creative flow.

I work extremely hard doing what I love, mainly to ensure that I don’t have to work extremely hard doing what I hate. Hugh MacLeod

Monetary affluence is influenced by this energy centre, as money is an energetic flow. According to Rev. Dr. Susan Corso, there are two modes of money flow: circulation and congestion. Circulation is paying your bills, giving to charity, practising trust and generousity. Congestion is hoarding, being fearful, and stingy.

Money is meant to keep moving from hand to hand, which is why it is called currency. Greed and hoarding undermine, even destroy, the purpose of money and cause the current to stagnate. The more that money flows in a society, the richer the society is, because the flow supports the unfolding of human potential in all of its citizens. Mayuri Onerheim

So money is a current, a currency. It should flow in the now. Rev. Dr. Susan Corso provides some techniques for getting in the flow with money yourself. She suggests you ‘pray your bills,’ that is, you give thanks for what the bills represent, shelter, water, heat, clothing, food, and for the money to pay them.

For me, it’s helpful to remember that humans survived for centuries without money. Animals today survive without it. Chris Cade

She also suggests you ‘bless your money,’ so whatever money comes through you, you bless and send on its way. These practices recognise money as an energy in motion, and resist the need to grasp or attach to it, which actually stops its flow and decreases your chance of abundance and affluence. I will certainly be giving these tips a go!

This planet has – or rather had – a problem, which was this: most of the people living on it were unhappy for pretty much of the time. Many solutions were suggested for this problem, but most of these were largely concerned with the movement of small green pieces of paper, which was odd because on the whole it wasn’t the small green pieces of paper that were unhappy. Douglas Adams

Money is a resource, not a need. Money is conceptual; those bits of paper have no value except though our consensus. Old forms of currency had inherent value, salt, that has value, gold has value. Money has no inherent value. So what I want is not money, but freedom, choice, and security, these attributes we have have given to the concept of money.

The economic system is a human invention. The idea of capitalism, free enterprise, corporations – these are not forces of nature. There are some things in nature we have to live with – physics, chemistry, biology… Why do we bow before human-created ideas? We can change those things! We can’t change our dependence on the biosphere for our survival. David Suzuki

It’s a pretty ludicrous concept really. However it is the current paradigm, so the lesson for me is that my attachment to outcomes, whether about money or anything in life, stops the flow. So my job is to remain unattached. Money or no money, I am okay with either for my highest good.

If you do what you need, you’re surviving. If you do what you want, you’re living. Unknown

The healing aspect of this chakra, according to Carline Myss, is in shared spiritual experience, the need to experience the sacred in connection with others. Ritual is a fundamental human need: for us to have daily rapport with the sacred. To share this experience is to honour one another. Vitality in this chakra comes from divine connections with others, this can be meeting with a beloved group of friends for coffee and deep and meaningful talks, dancing, choirs, group meditation, yoga, bushwalking in a group – anything that connects you with others and the divinity of life in a sacred way.

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin


Today’s affirmations on the sacral chakra by Natalie Southgate:

Pleasure is a good and valuable part of my life.

I give myself permission to fully enjoy my sexuality.

I allow abundance and prosperity into my life.

I allow my emotions to flow through me in a healthy way.

I am open to experiencing the present moment through my senses.

The universe is full of sweetness and beauty.

I easily express my emotions – they feel free and flowing.

have an abundance of healthy, sensual pleasures in my life.

I ensure that I am always hydrated and I enjoy drinking water.

I can identify what I need, and ask for it.

I enjoy stimulating and healthy sexual relationships.

I love to dance, moving with music feels good to me.

I am in touch with my sensitive side.



Further Reading


Title image: Toni Carmine Salerno Angels, Goddesses, and Gods oracle cards

A social contract of love


When all your desires are distilled;

You will cast just two votes:

To love more,

And be happy. Hafiz

Whenever I meditate on the chakras – starting at the base and working up – as I reach the sixth chakra, I spontaneously let out an enormous sigh. ‘Ahhh! I’m home,’ exclaims the deepest part of me. Always an introvert, I have struggled with the noise of the world. This inner space is so soothing to my spirit.

As I child I lay in bed contemplating space, the vastness, the spaciousness, the stars and galaxies – where did it all come from? And what was there before that? And how can something come from nothing?

I’m going to ask that you take a journey with me. This journey for some of you will be already known, and for others will test the fabric of your sense of reality. All I ask of you is an open mind – which you obviously have to be reading this blog in the first place.

As far back as history recorded, humankind has sought authority from the Gods, from godlike Pharaohs and kings. Philosopher Thomas Hobbes suggested this was a social contract we make to ensure security from ‘state of nature’ – which he saw, rather pessimistically as rape, pillage, and plunder.

My feeling is that the top two chakras – the third eye and crown – are very much about you finding your own insights, your own spiritual truths, your true nature, and therefore the autonomy and responsibility that comes with that. Here I disagree with Hobbes, I think what you fear most is not the insecurity of lawlessness, but the responsibility to harness your own power. I think the social contract – the current version, that is – sells you short by abdicating your power.

Your true nature is not inherently competitive and violent. Assuming all animals are inherently cooperative – as they have to be to survive – there is no need to fear your own authority. What you fear is not lawlessness itself but the many ways humans act out when they feel disempowered. Caroline Myss says that all issues are issues of power, and all of life’s lessons are a process of discovering and taking responsibility for your own power – empowerment.

As Marianne Williamson so famously wrote:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Hobbes was definitely onto something with the idea of a social contract, any sane society would agree that you should live and raise your children by an ethical code, however his assertion that you ought to submit to the authority of an absolute and unlimited sovereign power in order to do so, is based on fear and an inherent distrust of human nature. It’s time for a social contract based on love.

My last post focused on joy, and my next intention is love. I’m not going to go into that too much here, except to say that I believe joy and love are energetic signatures of the divinity you all carry within you. This is not about individuals – e.g. me – walking around in a heightened state of joy – although it’s a very pleasant by-product! My intention here is about what I am putting out into the world. The great hope for humankind is to learn to live from these vibrational states.

Feeling will get you closer to the truth of who are you than thinking. Eckhart Tolle 

Sounds hippy-dippy? Well think about this. Have you ever wanted to harm yourself or another when in a state of joy or love?

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about soma-fuelled state of euphoria. I’m talking about a race of people with enough emotional maturity to encourage these states as desirable for a harmonious society, who teach their children – by practising themselves – meditation and acts of kindness as a way to enhance their compassionate outlook on life.

This does not mean ignoring or denying the suffering in life, or the difficulties inherent in living. It means learning to respond to those difficulties with love and compassion, and emotional maturity. You don’t have to hurt others because of your pain. You can learn to support and nurture yourselves and each other through pain and suffering, as an acknowledgement that you all share this aspect of life.

What kind of behaviour would the citizens of this world exhibit? Cooperation, compassion, and creativity.

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift. We will not solve the problems of the world from the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. Albert Einstein

This may sound lofty to some of you, but I don’t see it as lofty at all. For a start our survival as a race depends on it.

The change is easy, instead of spending an hour a week on Religious Studies in primary schools, teach meditation, mindfulness, and others skills to enhance emotional intelligence. Start and finish the school days with five minutes meditation. Make sure every school participates in social justice programs – many do already.

Imagination is more important than knowledge, because knowledge is finite. Albert Einstein

Why start with schools? Not only because children are the future adults of society, but children are also incredibly powerful. They are open to new ideas and influences, and they also have amazing marketing power, they influence the bulk of purchases and life choices made by their parents. I think if we get the kids on board, we’d have a critical mass of adults in no time. Also, schools are an early model of society for children. Currently most school curriculums encourage competition and conformity, imagine if they focused instead on compassion and creativity? I know many teachers and schools who already do try to this, but it is far from the norm.

Children must be taught how to think, not what to think. Margaret Mead

I ‘accidentally’ – serendipitously? – googled Thomas Hobbes and Caroline Myss and found her article on the dumbing down of the American education system, called Crimes against the Soul of America. It’s an old article but she makes many salient points – which unfortunately haven’t changed in the last 6 years since she wrote this.

I am not using the word “soul” within the context associated with the politics of right-winged religious fanatics. Rather, I am referring to the essence of what makes a human being truly human, the inherent part of us that is more than meets the eye.

Students on a path toward becoming high functioning human beings must be guided in matters of their soul, namely, how to recognize and respond to a moral crisis; how to formulate a personal ethical code and to withstand challenges to that code within a society that thrives on predator instincts; and how to form and maintain an honour code within a society in which any sense of honour is now held together by legal contracts rather than the integrity of a person’s word. Giving our students a common ground for discussions of their fears and insecurities concerning emerging into adult life and how to cope with those difficulties is as much a part of their education as is math and the liberal arts (remember those?). If this is not the role of the classroom, then what is?

It is through discussions such as these that skills of introspection are awakened and a foundation is put in place for the wisdom arts: personal reflection and accountability, discernment, personal virtue, and stamina of spirit.

There’s plenty of movements around on this same page, like the Global Love Project.The Global Love Project “is a platform for honouring and celebrating humanitarian love, with numerous initiatives, free resources, inspiration, and events.”

On the drive down to the beach this weekend I was listening to Caroline Myss, she shared this story, which blew my mind and brought tears to my eyes – a symptom I am learning to recognise as my heart engaging. It’s long, but worth a read, it gave me chills because I believe it to be true.

One story comes to mind that a woman shared with me… who had been in a car crash that had shattered her body. 
As a result of this collision, she had a near death experience in which she found herself suspended over the scene of the accident, viewing her limp and bleeding body held lifeless between the steering wheel and the driver’s seat. Suddenly, instantly, she said, she was aware of what the drivers in the cars lined up behind her smashed vehicle were saying: “Damn, this is just what I need – a car crash,” and, “I wonder how long I’m going to be stuck here.”

Then, she said, she noticed a bright, illuminated beam of light shooting out of the fifth car stuck behind her crashed automobile. As soon as she wondered, “What is that beam of light?” she found herself next to the woman in that car, who had instantly gone into prayer for her. And then she instantly became aware that the beam of light that was flowing directly from this woman upward toward the heavens seemed to cause another beam of light to flow directly into her. She wondered who this woman was and in that instant, she noticed the license plate number on this woman’s car and memorized it.

Then she heard a voice calling to her, an angelic voice, instructing her to return to her body because the time was not yet right for her to return home. She was still required to remain on the earth. She said it took her months to recover from the accident but when she did, she tracked down this woman who had prayed for her and went to her home with a bouquet of flowers to thank her for praying for her on that night when her body lay shattered on the ground.

I call it prayer, but I realise that word has religious connotations and may be off putting to some. Think of it as sending waves of love and light to another person, place or thing. This is more the realm of the seventh chakra, but in a sense the top two chakras work very much in unison – like all human action, prayer begins as a thought.

Your brain is wider than the sky. Emily Dickinson

This is a powerful example of ONE person praying for another. Imagine if a group of people were sending out that kind of power? Marianne Williamson has long been a proponent of sending group ‘love blasts’ to people and countries that need love and healing, and to the planet itself. Imagine if the evening news asked you to do this. “Terrorists holding hostages, let us take a moment to send love to the terrorists.”

It is not how much we do, but how much love we put into what we do. Mother Theresa

Now it is common for those so inclined to pray after such an event. Marianne Williamson asks you to imagine if you prayed before the terrorist took action. Imagine praying regularly for love to fill the hearts of the unloved? Imagine a world of people so empowered and love-fuelled that terrorism, and violence of all kinds, had no foothold, no place to take root?

Why do you say it’s impossible and continue to accept the unacceptable status quo, where a few people have so much and so many suffer?

It’s your beliefs, your vision that holds you back. People once thought it was impossible that the earth was round, that it gravitated around the sun, that it wasn’t the centre of the universe, that a woman could be prime minister, that a black man could be president of the USA. ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE, if enough people believe it to be.

Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were, but without it we go nowhere. Carl Sagan

The sixth chakra is all about this kind of vision. Anything IS possible in your imagination and then you can manifest that vision into physical reality.

I’d love to hear about your visions for the world. Feel free to share them here. It is by communicating your vision with others that you create change in the world.

Tom Shadyac’s film I Am is about the desire to change the world, and asks the significant minds of today – from Noam Chomsky to Desmond Tutu – two questions, ‘what’s wrong with the world’ and ‘what can we do about it?’

Shadyac talks about his awakening to ‘the disease of over-consumption’, how nothing in nature takes more than it needs – and if it does, it dies off. One of the people he interviewed refers to a book by Peter Farb, Man’s Rise of Civilisation, where he asserts that the accumulation of private property greater than your needs is a mental illness.

The key message of the film, is that our survival as a civilisation depends on us harnessing our gifts of empathy, love, and cooperation. That human nature, like all nature, is inherently cooperative not competitive. It’s a survival instinct.

The film is full of amazing and mind-opening examples of this. By far my favourite is the example of the deer herds. We have been taught that stags are competitive alpha males, right? A community of deers were studied to see how they made the choice to move from grazing grounds to the watering hole. The assumption was the the male stags would make the decision and the herd would follow – Hobbes’ sovereign power theory in action.

What was discovered was that when 50.1% (that is, the minutest majority) of the herd turned their heads towards the watering hole, the whole herd would simultaneously take off, and often the stags were the last to move. Like “Hey, where are you all going? Wait for me!” The point is, it was a consensual decision. Read more about it here.

Without exception the natural state of group-living animals is to cooperate, not dominate. Democracy, it turns out, is hardwired into the DNA of species from ants to zebras. And it includes all of the hominids from the great apes to Homo sapiens. Thom Hartmann

The film asks what is wrong with the world and ends up discovering what is right with the world…

The science of connection and unity; the universal nature of compassion and empathy, the mystery and magic of the human heart. Tom Shadyac

Now I am not naive, I know not everyone in the world has a heart full of love. I watched several episodes of True Detective on the weekend, and that was almost enough for me to feel insurmountable hopelessness. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a a fabulous series, it feels like a Twin Peaks for the new millennium. And I loved Twin Peaks. Back in the days before downloads and online TV, before my family even had a VCR, I used to lie on my tummy in front of our only TV set and enter the world of David Lynch for an hour each week. It’s a dark place though. These days my vibration is more towards the light, and I don’t indulge in dark themes so much. Even though I know it’s fiction, there’s something about that energy vibration that doesn’t do me any favours.

Don’t ask to understand the secrets of the universe but simply to know what this moment means. Caroline Myss and Peter Occhiogrosso 

It’s interesting to me how much people love being scared. Horror movies, true crime. Maybe it’s a way to control fear, you can press pause, look away, or stop reading? Or maybe it deadens you to reality, so watching the evening news is indistinguishable from Wolf Creek. It’s all surreal and therefore you don’t have to really engage with it. That’s a philosophical discussion for another day.

It is love that will save our civilisation, even love for our enemies. Martin Luther King

Anyway, the point it, there are plenty of people in the world who are rather dedicated to living out of hate and fear. In my opinion it’s not necessary for everyone to live from love, all that is needed is a critical mass, which last I heard was about 33%. That’s right, one (cohesive) third of the population creates “socio-cultural transformation,” wrote Hugo O. Engelmann, who asserts that “a group’s prominence increases as it approaches one-third of the population and diminishes when it exceeds or falls below one-third of the population.” Wikipedia, one-third theory.

One third of any population is still a big chunk of people, but it’s much more achievable than 100%, to my mind.

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. Margaret Mead

So what of this journey I asked of you in the beginning of this post? To imagine – despite all evidence to the contrary – that you live in a social contract of love. Imagine that human nature is inherently cooperative, empathetic, and compassionate. Imagine you are the person who will be the tipping point of this critical mass into a consciousness of love. It’s all up to you.

Limitless undying love which shines around me like a million suns it calls me on and on across the universe. John Lennon

Suspend your disbelief. Let this social contract of love inform every decision you make in the next 24 hours. You may do this already. If so, your mission – if you choose to accept it –  is to share this contract with others. I am asking you, dear reader, to be a part of the 33% needed to change the world. And I wouldn’t ask something I wasn’t willing to do myself, so I pledge to follow a social contract of love for the next 24 hours too.

This is my sixth intention: joy to the world.

Affirmations from Marc Allen at  New World Library and Spirituality and Health Magazine

By being calm and aware, I know intuitively the right thing to do, moment to moment.

I am now creating the life of my dreams, in an easy and relaxed manner, a healthy and positive way, in its own perfect time, for the highest good of all.

This, or something better, is now manifesting in totally satisfying and harmonious ways for the highest good of all.

The smallest action can make a difference. My life is important. I can change the world just by being here, right now.

I am relaxed. I feel the energy and current of the universe. I know what I am meant to do.

Luminous and productive energy flows through me



Title image source: Litany of universal light